Let me tell one of the oldest stories in the world….its old because it rings true to most of us guys….don’t be shocked…im not a psyco,
Story, Story…..

Once upon a time, there was a man who was very attracted to a particular woman.

At first, she was just another attractive woman… but the more he got to know her, the more he began to feel attracted to her… and the more time he spent with her, the more that attraction grew into a deep emotional attachment and affection for her.

But there was one problem.

As his emotional attachment grew stronger and stronger, he also grew more and more insecure.


Because he couldn’t tell whether or not she felt the same way towards him.

Sometimes she would say things like “You are so important to me” and “I’m glad that you’re in my life”… but nothing ever progressed past the “friendship” stage.

There was an occasional hug, an occasional kiss on the cheek from her… and once she even held his hand for a long time while he talked about an emotional issue.

But something was wrong with the picture.

She just wasn’t acting like a woman that was “falling in love”. She was acting like a friend.

The insecurity that he felt became a spiral that amplified itself… and the more insecure he became, the more afraid he grew of “screwing things up” by kissing her or asking her to be his girlfriend.

Plus, the more insecure he became, the less time she seemed to want to spend with him.

After spending many days and nights obsessing over this girl, the man finally arrived at the conclusion that if she only knew how HE FELT, that she would feel the same way.

So he made a bold move.

He TOLD HER how he felt.

He confessed that he was in love, and that he would do anything to be with her.

She looked at him with compassion in her eyes and said “Thank you… I really mean that… but I don’t want to mess up our friendship… you’re too important to me…”.

This only confused the man more.

He didn’t know how to take it…

Did it mean that she really loved him too, but that she was afraid of something?

Did it mean that she wasn’t ready for a long- term relationship?

Did it mean that she didn’t love him, but that she was trying to give him a hint?

Did it mean that he hadn’t tried hard enough?

Did it mean that he needed to put everything on the line and REALLY let her know how he felt?
He finally decided that he couldn’t go on like this anymore… he had to be with her.

He had to make sure that she knew just how much he wanted to be with her… so he took a big step, bought her a symbolic gift, and wrote her a long, long letter… again confessing his feelings.

And then the unthinkable happened.

She didn’t reply.

He called her three times a day for almost a week before reaching her.

She made an excuse about being very busy, and said “I’ll try to give you a call soon, I have to go”… and hung up…

…but he never got a call back.

Over the following months, the man tried desperately to understand what went wrong… and what happened.




30 thoughts on “WHAT DO WOMEN REALLY WANT??

  1. I’ve been in this kinda situation before, and its a teRrible 1 to be in…the girl obviously doesn’t feel the same way about the guy, I guess she’s also having a hard time confronting the guy and telling him how she feels, she doesn’t want to hurt him, truth is, that’s exactly what she’s doing


      1. I’ve heard that a lot, how is a guy supposed to know what goes on in a gals head, is he psychic…. I don’t get that..abeg they should say what’s on their mind..its better that way


      1. Some will say early enough is too soon, what happened to all that talk of “let’s be friends first, and see where it goes”.. As far as I’m concerned its never too early or too late…my own is let him know how you feel too, be sincere, don’t put the guy in a confused state


  2. the problem is that she felt d same way for him but is afraid that once she accept him as a lover,things won’t be the same. cos most women would want that affection 2 go on so she felt accepting him as a lover would limit the love he had felt for her.


    1. most guys dont see it this way….. i personally think, if a gurl likes a guy as a friend… thats what its gon be, and if shes sexually attracted to him, wether he wants to be a friend or not, she’ll try to get him as a lover


  3. i hear this story everyday, but not like this, it’s the other way around..
    Conclusion: The babe was either “not that interested”, or scared


  4. She obviously dint like him in that manner… And she dint want 2 tell him point blank bcos she wd have damaged his ego by doin dat. So the best tin 2 do was “the silent treatment”


  5. Simple really. If he really loves her he has to end the friendship, pull away and start on a fresh note after some months. I’ve done it three times now.

    The safest way remains letting your intentions known at the right time. Never let her get too comfortable around you telling you her private stories etc.

    There’s always hope.



  6. 1st of all FUCK all gals who want to be frnds wit guyz, and fuck all guyz who have gals dey’re attracted to as frnds
    its a win-win situation for the gals y? cos d guy treats u almost d same way he’ll treat a gf,take u out,spent on u n shit, d only difference is dat dere’ll be no sex or affection from d girl’s side
    lose-lose situation for the guy…..he’ll spend so much money and time and at the end of the day. nothing!


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